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To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”

– Oscar Wilde

Feeling better about yourself can happen in a lot of ways. But, ultimately, feeling better about ourselves means ‘feeling’ is the operative word. I make this clarification for a few reasons…

In American culture, I have found that we are taught to overly cognize our experience while diminishing the felt qualities of said experience. It may be that this phenomenon is common in other cultures as well but I can’t comment on that due to my own limited experiences.

One of the challenges working with trauma is…


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The Double-Edged Sword or Tolerance

On one hand, our ability to tolerate challenges has been linked with our ability to develop grit. On the other hand, tolerating dysfunction can lead us to drain our emotional reserves that will hinder our progress.

What you are tolerating could be helping you develop grit.

or

What you are tolerating could be slowing you down from reaching your goals.

Each one of us must navigate through many demands to get to the finish line — the end of the day, reaching a goal, or some other place in space-time towards which we direct our…


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Originally published in 1993, the book Emotional Contagion by Hatfield, Cacioppo, & Rapson, presented a framework for how people can catch emotions. In the book, they propose three mechanisms by which emotions can be caught: mimicry, feedback, and contagion.

Suffice it to say…

I don’t actually plan to dive too far into their book as much as it’s helpful to understand that emotions, by their very nature, are contagious. This is something that may fly under the radar for many people given that emotions exist non-physically. It’s not like catching a virus or having bacteria infect our bodies.

It’s really…


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With the craziness of the world over the past year or so, the topic of coping skills continues to come up and be an important piece of maintaining mental health. The challenge though, is what happens when coping skills don’t work?

This topic can get into some pretty murky water that I would like to use this post to dispel.

Coping skills can fail to work for a variety of reasons. Some of those reasons can go from misunderstanding what is meant by coping skills to a general lack of effectiveness and misapplication of various practices.

Defining what we mean…


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Saving ourselves from the loneliness epidemic.

Prior to the COVID epidemic, former Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy was sounding the alarm on the loneliness epidemic. Now, with COVID in full swing creating further isolation, we are seeing an alarming increase in loneliness due to the need for isolation and social distancing. This has created a significant disruption to our ability to interact, and connect, with others.

As human beings, we are social creatures. Community and connection are essential to our survival. From sharing resources to emotional connection, we need others to help sustain our lives.

Dr. Murthy makes the case…


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What is wise reasoning?

Do you want to find a way to build a bridge during conflict you may be experiencing? Based on research, when you are navigating through conflict all you have to do is practice some good ol’ ‘wise reasoning’.

Research shows that wise reasoning has led people to feel more positively towards their interpersonal relationships following challenging confrontations. Deploying wise reasoning helps improve relational well-being and interpersonal outcomes following an experience of conflict.

Umm…Michael, what’s this wise reasoning stuff you talk about? What does it actually mean? I’m really glad you asked, that’s a great question.

How…


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This past weekend, on 1/23, marked one year after I died. I guess, technically, I didn’t die given that I’m sitting here writing this post that you’re reading. So, let me elaborate…

One year ago, just a little bit before the COVID kickoff, I was at home when a sudden onset of intense chest pain struck me. I knew almost immediately that something was very wrong.

I was taken to the emergency room and shortly after arriving, my awareness fully disconnected from my experience due to the level of pain I was in. …


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One of the most important ingredients for happiness and well-being that is an underutilized tool for growth is the process of checking-in. This one tactic can improve our ability to be present with ourselves, our relationships, goal-setting, our work process, and generally the process of life.

Don’t “should all over yourself” but, really, checking-in should be a regular part of everybody’s process (in my humble opinion). Regular check-ins create a feedback loop of valuable information on which to base current and future actions.

It can be easy to fall into the repetition and monotony of life and let things settle…


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As stated in the title, having a normal experience to a crazy situation feels crazy. Given recent current events, this is a feeling that I have been coming back to over the past several days and felt it may be valuable for others for me to write about. Not only did we just come out of the holidays but then we were confronted with a significant degree of social unrest.

Maybe in the past week you have felt some degree of fatigue, restlessness, noticed an escalating degree of agitation, or maybe you even just had the feeling that you were…


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It’s that time of year again — time to set resolutions, new year goals, or another way of entering into the new year to be better.

New year, new you.

But, resolutions don’t work. Right? I mean, how many times do we come up with new year resolutions just to find them slip away within the first handful of months? Then, by mid-year, most resolutions for people have drifted away.

Well, realistically, the problem is not with the resolutions, it’s with the process of setting and executing them. …

Michael Ceccon

Michael is a man of many hats: counselor, entrepreneur, organizational ninja, philosopher, meditator, coffee junkie, and lover of animals.

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